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Albania – the Other Side of the World

16 Aug

As soon as I got back  to Britain, Albania started fading like a dream.  When I’m in the UK, Albania seems like a crazy, imaginary place, and when I’m over there the West just seems like a story.  They are two different  worlds and it seems impossible that they could both be true.  Before the last rays of sunshine trickle from my memory I’ll set down a few of my favourite, and least favourite, thing about Albania.

A Roadside Building in Albania

A Roadside Building in Albania

+ve Buildings with bold geometric shapes and contrasting colours, with supporting columns thrown out at energetic angles.   These are typically roadside garages or “kompleks” (small service stations) but you also get hotels and apartment blocks in this form.  I think it’s probably a combination of the survival from the communist era of an appreciation for strong, clean lines, with a post-communist rebellion against the constant grey and lack of decoration,  but I’m hardly an expert on architectural psychology.  The photo is terrible, taken from a moving car with a phone camera, but it gives you an idea.  It may not be to your taste, of course – after all, I’m one of those people who like wind turbines.

+ve The food.  I love Albanian food, generally speaking.  That’s not to say I haven’t had any number of bad meals in Albania, but when it’s done well, Albanian cuisine is amazing.  This, like the buildings, is also a matter of taste.  It tends to be greasy and salty and generally bad for you – but then, I’m Scottish, I’m designed to like that kind of stuff.  My favourite kind of Albanian food is the fast food – byrek me gjise (salty white soft cheese inside flaky filo pastry) and sufllaqe (pork, salad, and chips in a pitta, with lashings of  ketchup, mustard and mayonnaise).  I always make a beeline to my friend Dajana’s sufllaqe shop whenever I return to the town of Lushnje.

+ve and -ve  Sunshine.  Now, this looks like it should be a clear-cut positve, but you can have too much of a good thing.  When you’ve been suffering through Scotland’s excuse for a summer, constant hot sunshine is great, and that’s true up to about 35 degrees (in the sun).  Once it starts to climb above that, however, you start to remember that the sun can kill you – and indeed it feels like it will when you’re struggling through the blazing 40 degree sunshine, gasping for the next patch of shade and glugging litres of water.  Most of the time this trip the weather was perfect – hot enough to persuade you into the sea / lake / river, not hot enough to make you want to drown yourself there.

+ve and -ve  Another plus and minus combined is the driving.  On the one hand I love the freedom of not having to wear a seatbelt and the innovative way people deal with road regulations, such as improvising their own contraflows (when I’m being driven – driving myself would be fairly terrifying).  On the other hand, most people do seem  to drive like idiots, park in the daftest places, and accidents are accepted as a natural hazard.  I saw two while I was out there in less than two weeks.  Neither was serious, but it gives you some idea of the condition cars and bikes – and, in some cases, people – end up in.

-ve But if you think driving conditions are bad, you should try being a pedestrian.  There’s a reason why people walk down the roads, despite the crazy driving, and it’s that the pavements are more hazardous.  The slabs are often broken or missing, and in some places there are uncovered manholes and drains (although this problem is not as bad as it used to be).  It’s not that bad in sensible shoes in the daytime, but throw in the complication of high heels, or nightime, or both, and things get very hairy indeed.

-ve Worse than the broken pavements was the broken sleep. Now this isn’t a typical Albanian thing like the others on the list, it’s more a result of being there in the holidays when people are coming and going and everyone wants to fit as much in as possible.  So there were 4am wake up calls to go fishing, the husband coming in from a local bar in the early hours, relatives arriving from Greece at three in the morning – and sometimes more than one interruption in a night.  I spent a week without a whole night’s sleep and I would have become homicidal if it wasn’t for the siestas.

+ve Affection.  In Albania, your friends show you that they love you, and you can do the same back without fear of being misunderstood.  There’s so much more platonic touching – holding hands, kissing on both cheeks, walking arm in arm.  It’s also true that people can fake affection, particularly when circumstances dictate that they’re supposed to love you, but don’t.  However, that is more than made up for by the genuinely warm welcome my old friends give me (especially my Christian friends), and the sheer joy of spending time with people who truly care about you and aren’t afraid to show it.

(f you’re interested in visiting Albania, you might want to check out my article on Albania as a holiday destination.  Be aware, though, that the advice on visas and using credit cards is a bit out of date – things have moved on and it’s easier to visit and to use plastic than it used to be.)

Loss of Irony

2 May

I seem to be losing my sense of irony. First I genuinely enjoyed the royal wedding, and not just for the pretty horses. I was even a little bit emotional when they said “I will”. Now, I find myself looking forward to the Eurovision. That’s not unusual, I love the Eurovision and watch it every year, but every year I find that I care a bit more about which song is going to win and smirk a bit less at the tackiness of it all. Where will this end? Will I have to emigrate to Germany where I can support leather-clad hard rock entries with a straight face?

On the other hand, though, what is the advantage of irony? Fair enough, it takes the edge of unpleasant things if you don’t have to take them seriously, but if it dampens my enjoyment of the royal pageantry of the wedding and epic Europeaness of the Eurovision, what’s the point? I’ll be shouting “douze points” with abandon this year, thank you!

Lent with John Stott

16 Mar

I realise that it is normal to give things up for Lent, but after a discussion at my church’s local housegroup, I decided to take something up instead. I will be reading “The Cross of Christ” by John Stott.

It’s not as hefty a tome as I thought (thankfully) so I may get it finished over Lent. It’s something I’ve been meaning to read, and should make Easter more meaningful when it comes.

Small claim to fame: I met Dr Stott when he was in Albania, and presented him with a video. I don’t expect he remembers me, though!

Best Things About Spring

25 Feb

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I’ve had coffee outside in the sunshine, been for a walk in the park, and just installed a pink blossom design into newly downloaded Firefox (not that re-downloading had made it open Yahoo, but hey). It must be spring (hopefully) so here is my top 5 things about Spring.

1) The smell of it. It smells fresh, not in a crisp wintery way but in green and pink, things growing sort of way. And the air is softer so you can fill your lungs with it instead of protecting yourself from it with a scarf like you do in winter.

2) Daffodils. Not the only spring flower, but the best. They brighten up hills, parks, and my hall table, and they even smell bright! They’re such an amazing shape, so that they’re associated in my heat with brass-heavy Easter songs (see point 4). In York in the springtime, the banks up to the old city walls are covered with daffodils. It’s worth going for that reason alone (although there are many other reasons to visit York, as it happens).

3) Blossom. This post is really straying into Disney territory, isn’t it? But think about it: trees which are usually either green or brown suddenly turn pink! It would be astounding if we weren’t so used to it. In Albania the blossom we got in Spring was orange blossom, which also smells amazing.

4) Easter happens in springtime. As a Christian, Easter is actually more important to me than Christmas. It’s solemn but it’s also joyful – declaring “He is risen indeed!” on the Sunday with a group of other happy, believing people is a good feeling. There are some brilliant songs which only come out at Easter, like My Song is Love Unknown and Thine Be the Glory (which has to be played with trumpets!). And on top of all that, you are encouraged to eat loads of chocolate!

5) The fact that summer is on the way. I’m fond of spring (I like all the seasons, actually), but if I had to choose I would take the sizzling sun and long, warm evenings of summer. Not long to go now!

Rules to Live By

20 Mar

Some given to me as advice, some learnt from experience, but all useful when applied with common sense.

  • Smile and nod.
  • It will all seem better in the morning.
  • Ignore it and it will go away.
  • Never go to the toilet straight before going to the doctor.
  • Be honest.
  • Don’t drink wine when you’re thirsty.
  • Don’t buy an espresso from a place that can’t spell it.
  • There is no such thing as “the real world”.
  • There’s nothing wrong with being different.
  • There are better things to be than pretty.
  • There are better things to be than clever.
  • Generally speaking, beware of men with beards.
  • It is never necessary to sin in order to do good.
  • Nobody can dance.
  • You can’t dance in slippers.
  • Cultivate friendship.
  • Fresh air and sunshine are good for you.
  • In almost all cases, whisky named after a place = good, whisky named after a person = bad.

Left-Handed Day

8 Feb

Last week I decided to have a left-handed day, although I am actually right handed.  There was a reason.  My “ambidextrous” sister and “right handed” me had been having a conversation about it, and we couldn’t find many things that she could actually do significantly better with her left hand than I could.

So I thought I would swap hands for a day and see if I’m more amidextrous than I thought.  The simple answer is, yes, I can do a lot more with my left hand than I would have assumed.  That still leaves the question, though, of whether my sister and I are both ambidextrous or whether all right-handed people are actually not too bad with their left hands but just never try.  Give it a go and let me know.

Here are the highlights of my leftie day:

Hardest thing (apart from remembering to use my left hand): Spreading butter on toast, followed closely by double-clicking a mouse.

Easiest thing: Using straighteners.  I had never realised but I always hold them in my left hand, using the right to hold the hair.  Swapping over was no trouble at all.

Bravest thing: Cutting my fringe.  It turned out better than usual!

Weirdest thing: I found it much harder to type, even though I always type with two hands, and it was even harder to read.  That sounds as if it doesn’t make any sense at all but handedness is closely linked to language ability (to do with hemispheres of the brain) so I was probably just confusing my poor brain with the swap.

Things I chickened out of: Making a Valentines card for my husband (it’s hard!) and writing the address on envelopes.  Well, I did want them to get there!

Shoe Envy

2 Dec

I have said before that I don’t understand most women’s fascination with handbags.  Shoes, however, are a different matter.  I can be quite illogical about shoes.  Yes, I don’t understand the appeal of Jimmy Choos and Manolo Blahnicks (nasty clunky looking things) and yes, I have my sensible pairs of Clarks (they don’t leak), but I also have ridiculous strappy, high heeled confections of joy not because they are comfortable (some of them I can barely walk in) or waterproof (far from it) but because they are beautiful.

When I was at Uni I had a pair of black high-heeled sandals (as they are called, although they’ll never see a beach) which had a network of narrow, overlapping black straps, a four inch heel and not much else.  I called them my suicide shoes.  I wore them to the hall ball one night – six hours in those shoes and I couldn’t feel my feet for two days afterwards.  But it was worth it because they were so beautiful.  And not just the shoes themselves, but in really lovely shoes your feet are transformed into things of beauty too.

The latest episode of my relationship with shoes has been my search for the perfect pair of high heeled long boots.  They are in fashion at the moment, but in some ways that doesn’t help because a) there’s too much choice, too many places to look and b) the ones that are in fashion are generally either slouch style and too short, or over the knee (yikes!) or have so many buckles you’ll probably fasten your legs together as you walk.

I finally found a pair after much searching – heel not too high, not too flat, colour right (has to be black), only a small, unthreatening amount of buckles, and, for a miracle, the right length on the leg, too.  Then, the day after I found them, I suffered an unexpected attack of shoe envy when the boss at work walked in with a better pair!  Horror!  Of course, her budget is less limited than mine, but it leached all the joy out of my acquisition.  At least until I saw them the next day from another angle and they made her look like Rudolph Hess.  Phew!  My boots are perfect again.

One thing that is annoying about shoes, though, is that you have to put up with whatever height of heel the manufacturer sees fit to give you.  If you love the shoes and they have four inch heels, tough – you will have to get used to pain.  If you love them and the heel isn’t long enough to keep your trousers off the floor, again, tough – you’ll have to learn to sew hems.  Surely there is a market for shoes, not just in different sizes, but also different heel heights?  An idea for any entrepreneur ready to brave the (never-ending?) credit crunch.

 

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Mutual Grooming

3 Nov

After taking my black coat off today at work, I noticed that it had lots of blonde hairs clinging to the back of it.  It’s unavoidable because we all moult all the time, and if you’ve got long hair it’s especially noticeable.  The trouble is it makes you look scruffy and you never find out till afterwards.

Many times I have sat behind someone at church or on a bus, itching to remove the hairs that are making them look messy but not sure whether it’s rude, or if they’ll wonder what I’m doing.  But I would be grateful if someone did it for me!

So I think there should be an opt-out system.  Some sort of surreptitious little sign, probably only for women, to indicate that you don’t want to have your stray hairs removed.  Then the rest of us can tidy the hairs off each other without worrying about being though weird.  Who’s in favour?

Harvest Thanksgiving

25 Oct

It’s nice when church cheers you up.  I know that’s not actually its purpose, but it is something you hope for if you’re feeling down when you go.  Today was harvest thanksgiving, apparently.  Harvest doesn’t really affect people in cities (we need newspaper articles to tell us what vegetables are in season) so the minister talked about all the other things we have to be grateful for, and invited us to put them (or a description of them) into the “harvest basket”  – temporarily, of course!

He mentioned things like laptops (my life would be much harder without mine) and phones, but also the ability to read and things like that.  We sang a song afterwards with the line “let the poor say ‘I am rich’ because of what the Lord has done for me”.  I could completely agree with it as I sang it.  I may be totally skint at the moment, but I have friends and family, a loving husband, a roof over my head, books to read and the ability to read them. It’s good to be reminded of how rich you are sometimes.

BTW, my hubbie put a photo of me in the basket – he is a pain sometimes but he certainly knows how to charm his way back into my good books!

Handbags, and My Failings as a Woman

23 Oct

I think there is something lacking in me as a woman: I’m just not that excited by handbags.  It feels like this should be the normal way to be (I mean, who gets excited about backpacks or suitcases?) but I realise I’m unusual because my friends’ reactions are completely different.

Not only am I not interested in buying them myself, I find I can’t even admire the handbags my friends buy themselves (or persuade boyfriends to buy).  They just seem silly, especially the designer ones.  One friend of mind bought a bag for several hundred pounds which was larger than two carrier bags but had no compartments, so she could never find anything when she wanted it, and all her make-up got bashed around.  On top of that, it weighed as much as a small child even when it was empty, thanks to big metal studs, and was designed to be carried in the crook of the arm.  How can you comfortably carry anything that big and heavy in the crook of your arm?  I didn’t even think it looked nice.

Anyway, I will just have to live with the disability of handbag blindness, and it will save me lots of money even if it earns me lots of scorn.